Self-regulation is the ability to control one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in a way that's appropriate to the situation and helps meet long-term goals. This skill is at the heart of SEL and starts developing in early childhood, but it takes years to fully develop (and even adults need reminders sometimes).

Examples of Self-Regulation in Young Children:

  • A toddler who stomps but doesn't hit when upset.
  • A preschooler who waits their turn during a game (with some wiggling).
  • A child who recognizes when they're "too silly"  and calms down when prompted.

How Teachers Can Model and Support It:

  1. Model Emotional Vocabulary: I'm feeling overwhelmed, so I'm going to breathe and count to 5."
  2. Create a Calm-Down Space: Fill a small corner with fidget tools, soft pillows, and visuals. Make it a safe place, not a punishment.
  3. Use Visuals: Show kids what's next and what's expected. Pictures, timers, and songs help young children transition without meltdowns.

We're not expecting perfection, we are teaching practice.